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A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.

What is the price we pay for self-respect? Some people feel robbed of self-respect, while others have even killed to overcome feelings of inferiority. Psychologists insist that respecting others is impossible until we learn to respect ourselves. They believe that individuals, lacking in self-respect, are mistakenly too focused on helping others and not taking care of their own needs. One self-help site suggests that “you treat your self-respect like a pet. It is very easy to care for. Be sure to give it daily attention and it will grow big and strong.” Now, one might ask, “What’s wrong with respecting myself? If I can’t express honor and admiration for myself, how can I show proper respect for other individuals?” Rob’s childhood consisted of multiple divorces and eventually leaving home at 15. He finally earned a high school diploma at 21. During his first years of marriage he faced frequent unemployment and serious credit issues. Rob’s self-worth plummeted. Then a door of opportunity opened. Now Rob is a top salesperson in his firm, the recipient of awards and bonuses. In climbing the ladder of success, Rob admires (respects) the fact that he succeeded without a college degree. Rob expects esteem from everyone around him. If he doesn’t receive approval, he responds with disrespect. The self-respect that Rob learned to give himself is based on self-centeredness. Are self-respect and self-esteem the same? An individual with a healthy self-respect “likes” themselves -- even when encountering the inevitable failures in life. To esteem something is to “hold in high regard.” Self-respect and self-esteem are quite different. Self-esteem balances precariously upon a comparison with someone who’s always “a little better.” When we esteem someone or something, we face serious trouble if we do not measure up to those standards. Our esteem may ebb and flow, whereas a healthy self-respect (liking ourselves) is always grounded in what we are (and are not) -- not in what we can or cannot accomplish. I love to ice skate. I love to watch professional skaters. For years I took private lessons and trained on a personal skating rink. Yet I am not an exceptional skater. Realizing that I am not “Olympic material” doesn’t affect my self-respect. How can we affect our self-respect? It is human nature to focus on ourselves. From childhood, we have those basic desires -- to be loved, to receive approval, to GET things. Children quickly become unhappy when things are not focused on them -- what they didn’t get, who hasn’t noticed them, who has infringed on their rights, who didn’t give them respect. Self-respect is affected by how we react to someone complimenting us. The more times we give little regard to a compliment, the more secure our self-respect becomes. Suppose someone compliments our ability to play a musical instrument or to use a pair of scissors. Should the success or failure of either skill affect our self-respect? Naturally, we accept compliments graciously, with appreciation for their sincerity. Our self-respect is affected when we accept compliments selfishly, with application to our identity. How can we protect our self-respect? The first step is changing our focus from a selfish GET mentality to a selfless GIVE mentality (Philippians 2:3-4). There is nothing admirable about feeding our own egos. Admiration or devotion to ourselves and our accomplishments is a form of idol worship. An idol is anything placed between you and God (Ephesians 5:5). Even the apostle Paul did not judge his own motives or rely on accolades from others. “. . . Well, it matters very little what you or anyone else thinks. I don’t even trust my own judgment on this point. My conscience is clear, but that isn’t what matters. It is the Lord himself who will examine me and decide” (1 Corinthians 4:3-4).The following questions may arise: “Does that mean I shouldn’t treat myself well at all? Am I showing humility if I treat myself badly?” You are held in high regard by God (Ephesians 1:4-5). Yes, you should take care of your physical and emotional well-being, but in the context that you are respecting the body that God has given you. When you show self-respect, it should be within the context of the God who designed you and has great plans for you. The choices you make in how you live show respect for the final product you will present to Him (Galatians 6:4-5).

some tips about self respect:

1)Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.

2)There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.

3)If one is estranged from oneself, then one is estranged from others too. If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.
I hope you have been motivated.

Self Esteem is what we experience when we feel good about ourselves and when we feel good inside.
I think when you feel you like what you are doing, where you are going and feel you have your priorities right. Feeling good means being satisfied with what you have, with what you are doing and where you are going.

Don't make the common mistake of comparing your achievements to someone else or to what you believe you should have done up to this point. You will NEVER measure up and you will bring yourself down. LOW SELF ESTEEM.(its bad)

What you need to feel good inside is within your power. It is not the result but the route to achievement. You will have high self esteem when you have a sense of direction, satisfaction about your choices and actions and know that you are doing your best and doing something good.

- Do your best and you will respect yourself for it. If you don't you will know. You can cheat others but not yourself.

- Be honest and kind to others. Give yourself NO chance to be self critical.

Some ways to boost your self-esteem:

Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!:]

2) Do something you have been putting off. Like writing or calling a friend, doing some chores, tidying the garden, , making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through!


3) Do something you are good at. How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing… If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem!And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier.

4) Stop thinking about yourself!jkjk:] I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on yourself. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.

5) Get seriously relaxed.If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly yea? Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, physically-based relaxation technique such as yoga can be incredibly useful. When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!

6) Remember all the things you have achieved. This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here. Things like passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.7) Remember that you could be wrong!If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!SummaryOnce you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!,

A girl should have self respect.This means that you should respect yourself and other people around you.Firstly, you should point out your friend's strengths.Just like advisng them on how a girl can improve when it comes to her weaknesses. Instead, compliment her on her strengths. Let her know how amazing she is and how impressed you are by her talents and gifts. Highlighting her strengths (daily if necessary) is essential: She might be focusing on what’s wrong with her and not see all that's special about her.
But it’s important not to attach pressure or a prescription to your compliment like: (You’re so great at math, you should become an engineer. Here are the colleges you should apply to but they’re very tough to get into, so you should work hard.)Instead, plant a seed so she can grow by using her strengths, like: (You’re so great at math, do you enjoy it? If the answer is yes: If you want to spend more time flexing your math brain, let me know. Would you want to help me balance the family’s checkbook? It’s an important job and you’d be awesome at it if you’re interested.)Whether you’re a parent, coach, supervisor at work, teacher or mentor, give her tons of opportunities to play to her strengths so she can boost her confidence, skills and self-respect along the way.
Secondly, you should encourage your friend's passions.Like you have your dream , and the girls in your life have theirs (even if they don’t know it yet). Behind every poster child for self-respect is a long list of passions that are being pursued, fulfilled and never ignored. Cheer girls to go after their passions. Coach them about to explore their interests and balance their passions with their responsibilities. Support them however you can—whether it be a ride to lesson they never want to miss, packing them a snack to keep their energy up, or just asking them about their passions and how they make them feel. Share with them the limitless potential we all have. For inspiration, offer examples of your heroes and role models. Ask them who they admire and why. And accept when their passions change. Allow girls the flexibility to grow out passions and into new ones—always encourage them to try new things and that mistakes are lessons in disguise.
Thirdly, you should encourage your friend but don't give them too much confidence.Like every girl is creative , resourceful and whole. The question is: How can you draw out her power and gifts? No matter what challenge lies ahead, encourage her that she can do it. Then ask—not tell—her how she thinks she can achieve her goal, dream or task. In a supportive way ask her open-ended questions like: How would you go about getting into that college? or What are some ways you might raise the money to go to music camp?
As you take the time to ask powerful questions, her own intelligent plan will unfold. Be patient. This approach can take longer because she is new to exploring options and making action plans. If you hang back but let her know you are there for her, she will likely ask you for some advice and support—and then you can give her the benefit of your wisdom and experience. By telling girls they can do it, and then letting them figure out how, they start to see how smart they are, take more ownership over their plans, and think more deeply about the possible outcomes of their choices.
Fourthly, you should listen and respect her boundaries. When girls feel respected when people listen to them.When girls are sharing their feelings, dreams or disappointments, press your lips together, open your ears and lean in. They are giving you a gift. When girls share, it’s the chance to see inside their hearts and pick up clues about how you can support them in becoming who they are supposed to be. When you are truly listening to them (without butting in or offering advice or discounting their feelings because they scare you) they are seeing respect in action. Also, listening to their thoughts and ideas is part of coaching them about how to make self-respecting decisions. It reinforces that they and their feelings count. Girls say they need to be able to talk without fear or judgment. Otherwise, they start to shut out their supporters, stop asking questions and don’t ask for support. So it’s all about listening. Young people have things to teach us too! And when they set boundaries, listen harder than ever before. Because if a girl can’t set boundaries in the safety of her own home, how is she going to enforce her boundaries to protect herself and not be doormat out in the real world? Like if she says: Mom, can you not ask me tons of questions right when I get home from school? Or, It hurts my feelings when you criticize how I do things. Listen and then negotiate an alternative that works for both of you. She’ll feel respected, you’ll feel like you can still positively influence her...and respect will start to rule under your roof.
Lastly, you must respect yourself.Respecting ourselves is a life-long practice. Show the girls in your life how it works for you. Learn and live The 7 Respect Basics—from following your passions to listening to your gut.
Show her (even if you’re still working on it) how you take care of and appreciate your mind, body and soul. Show her how you value yourself based on more than what you have or how you look. Show her how you support other women and don’t put them down. Show her how you do things that you love and that enrich your life. Show her your integrity by telling and living your truth. Show her how when you are dealing with disrespect—unhealthy relationships, negative self-talk, too much stress, depression, addictions, etc.—how you’re not afraid to get help. Show her how you surround yourself with people who respect themselves and want you to be yourself. Show her that she doesn’t have to be perfect and how to learn from mistakes instead of letting them define her. Show her that you are forgiving of yourself and others. Show her how to treat people equally and not violate others' rights. Show her that even if we’re not always set up for success, that true respect starts on the inside.
If you work toward loving and respecting yourself and others in her presence, she will learn how to do it too. Mission accomplished.

When Abram traveled to the land of Canaan, he took everything he owned. Abram was very rich. He had lots of tents, lots of silver, lots of gold, and herds and herds of animals.

Abram's nephew traveled along with Abram. His name was Lot. Lot had lots of animals, too.
Between Abram's sheep and Lot's sheep, there was hardly enough grass and water to go around.
Before too long, Abram and Lot realized that there just wasn't enough for everyone to stay in the same place. Abram was older and had the right to choose first, but he did not want to argue over land. Abram allowed Lot to choose where he wanted to keep his sheep.
Lot chose the beautiful valley with the city to the East, while Abram ended up with rugged hills and not much water. So it was decided that Abram would stay in Canaan while Lot would move near the city of Sodom.
Lot chose to live in the rich fertile plains near Sodom where the men were very wicked.
Before too long a war broke out between the kings that lived near Lot. Lot and his family were taken prisoner and all of their possessions were stolen!

Abram heard the horrible news. Even though he now lived far away, he was still Lot's uncle! He organized his servants and set out to rescue Lot and his family. With God's help, Abram rescued his nephew, Lot's family and recovered their possessions.

Abram was doing the right thing by being selfless and in the end God blessed Abram when he qwas in times of need.
As for lot,he was greedy and got what he deserved.

The dictionary defines peace as: Freedom from war, strife, disturbance, disorder,disagreement, or quarrel(Webster New World Dictionary). This is not Christ's understanding of peace. Peace is not the absence of conflict, disagreement, or turmoil;rather it is the presence of Christ in the midst of every human experience, including conflict, disagreement and turmoil. The peace that Christ offers is not dependent on anyoutward circumstance, as any peace the world can give must be. This is the difference.Christ is not offering an escape from the challenges of life, but something far better .His presence to face up to all the challenges that life brings to us. How do we know? We know because of the context, the setting of this promise. Christ gave this gift on the evenof his violent execution. He gave this to fearful and distressed disciples. It was into thisturbulent setting that Christ proclaimed, my peace I give to you.

Christ wants us to have life, life in abundance. If we have his peace in our hearts, then we will be able to live in peace with one another. The question for us to think about is: Can we open our hearts and let the Light of Christ shine into all the dark corners and drive out our fears and anxieties from us? Do we long to draw closer to God in prayer and learn to trust him more for everything that happens in our lives? Dare we ask for a spirit of gratitude which reminds us that every good and gracious gift comes from God alone. Christ longs to give us more than we can ever ask or imagine , listen as he calls us each by name: My own peace I give to you.I do not give to you as the world gives...Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid. Peace I leave with you. It is my gift to you. It is yours to have and it is also for you to give away to the rest of the world .

You can't fight for peace - that would be war.

You can't fight against war - that would be war.

Therefore, do not BE against war, instead,
BE FOR PEACE
In fact, do not be against anything,
always be FOR something.
Where ever you concentrate your energy on,that part will grow.

Being against something, like war, just makes the conflict bigger.

Being for something, like peace, makes peace bigger.
If all the energy is concentrated on peace,there will be no energy left for war.
War will have become obsolete.

Being a pacifist does not mean being passive.

Being an Activist, does not mean destructive action.

To activate peace, one needs to take action to create:
peacefulness - happiness - health - wealth - purposemeaning - confidence - positive - tolerance
- - -As long as we have problems such as;poverty - homeless people - health and hospital problems - drugs - alcoholism - social unrest - crime - unemployment and many more..as long there can be no peace.
Peace starts with you,
please help to improve life around you.

It is incredibly easy to be drained by the stress of every day life. There are so many opportunities after all - financial concerns, employment issues, relationship strains, overloaded responsibilities, health burdens, pending critical decisions, etc. Fear, anxiety, discouragement, guilt, or alienation can cause us to lash out at the world or even turn inward with anger, blame or revenge - hardly a recipe for peace. None of us can escape the stresses of life. They are all around us and many we often create ourselves. Even Christ could not escape pressures from his environment. His enemies were hungry for the opportune moment to control his destiny. Yet Christ often displayed peace in his lifetime. Whenever the disciples were in a panic, he was at peace and in control. When Satan tempted Christ, Christ was again at peace.The phrase "the peace of Jesus Christ" contrains all the promises, hopes, and blessings of the gospel as revealed by Christ and as affirmed by the Holy Spirit, his promised presence with us. In all of the places in our lives where we are afraid, anxious, discouraged, guilt-ridden, or alienated, Jesus Christ speaks "peace" and opens the way to peace, not just for individuals, but for the whole of creation. (Conference sermon by President Steve Veazey) .

Once we recognize the peace,as Christ gives, what can we do in order to make it grow? We can become peacemakers by helping others recognize the Source of Life, God the Father, and open a path towards growth through His Son, Jesus the Christ. This is the essence and mission of the Christian Way of Life: To be a peacemaker. Only when a person, a family, or a community has the peace as Christ offers and works at bringing this peace into the life of others, only then they experience love, joy, and fulfillment. Otherwise, if human beings do not have this peace and do not try to become peacemakers from a Christian perspective, then their life becomes empty, boring, and without direction. Furthermore, those who try to deceive people into the worldly peace, capitalize on this very emptiying relationships so humanity will remain in chaos, and not challenge their empty promises and tyrannical means. And again such deceivers will try to oppress, persecute, and keep in the dark those who attain peace as Christ gives, so their deceptive oppression in the name of peace will not be exposed. But as the Gospel states: He light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.(St. John 1:5)

Those who seek the peace, as Christ offers spend their efforts looking inwardly in order to strengthen their relationship with God, which in turn would help them become more understanding, compassionate, and helpful people towards others. This is the meaning of the commandment that Christ gave: Love one another as I have loved you.In contrast, the peace as the world gives focuses outside of one's own person and attempts to create conflict and misery in others so their own misery and hypocrisy would not become apparent. The intent of such worldly groups is to keep humans from finding their true source of peace in God, so they can be more easily manipulated in the midst of confusion and lack of direction. So who would these hypocrites and deceivers who make false promises of peace try to oppress first? First and foremost they would try to oppress those who have peace as Christ offers! Why? Because those who attain and maintain peace as Christ offers are the ones who reveal to all humanity the fallacy and emptiness of the promises proclaimed by those worldly oppressors who bring darkness and ignorance in the name of peace. Those who have the peace as Christ gives are the lights that shine in the darkness and reveal the deception of those offering peace as the world gives. Consequently, the more peaceful a follower of Christ becomes, the more he or she is persecuted by the deceivers so their hypocrisy and deception is not revealed. For this reason, when Christ revealed his path for peace, he told his Disciples: Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.(St. John 14:27)

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The peace that Christ gives the human being is an intimate harmonious relationship with the Creator of the Universe, the compassionate Go the Father of all creatures and creation. If one were to live the Christian Way of Life, everything that he or she intends, thinks, and does will be in tune and harmony with the will of God, which in turn will be for the permanent betterment of all humanity for all ages. Take for instance that which the Prophets of the Old Testament, the Apostles, St. Gregory the Illuminator or St. Naratzee accomplished: Though thousands of years have passed, yet what they have done to raise the spiritual standard of humanity is still as fresh and effective today as it was centuries ago. Being part of such an elevation of the relationship between God and humanity is a life giving connection that brings peace to a person's or community's life because it elevates the human being from a mere mortal creature to a reflection of God the immortal Creator, leading Christ to liken them to sons of God.However, such is not the peace that the world offers. By the term world it is meant those who do not acknowledge their Creator and Source of life as God, and do not accept the revealer of this relationship as Christ the Savior. Instead, they see themselves and their organizations, as opposed to God, as the creators of law, order, and civilization in humanity. Consequently, in order to establish their supremacy as those who can bring peace to the world, such persons and groups continuously oppress others and bring chaos and conflict upon them. In that way, they, the false and hypocritical preachers of peace will establish themselves as gods as the only and the supreme source of law, order, and progress in society. In other words, the worldly peace is nothing more than a power struggle ,a struggle by a group of people to bring misery into the life of others so they outshine all humanity, and appear as though they are the champions of peace.All these hypocrites can do is offer deception, destruction, and hopelessness. So whereas the peace that Christ offers brings unity and harmony in the life of humanity and raises their standard of life, the peace that the world gives is merely a power struggle by human organizations who try to oppress and suppress others in order for them to appear as better than others. Put in another way, whereas the peace that Christ gives elevates and inspires the human being and society, the peace that the world offers oppresses and demoralizes them.

A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.

What is the price we pay for self-respect? Some people feel robbed of self-respect, while others have even killed to overcome feelings of inferiority. Psychologists insist that respecting others is impossible until we learn to respect ourselves. They believe that individuals, lacking in self-respect, are mistakenly too focused on helping others and not taking care of their own needs. One self-help site suggests that “you treat your self-respect like a pet. It is very easy to care for. Be sure to give it daily attention and it will grow big and strong.” Now, one might ask, “What’s wrong with respecting myself? If I can’t express honor and admiration for myself, how can I show proper respect for other individuals?” Rob’s childhood consisted of multiple divorces and eventually leaving home at 15. He finally earned a high school diploma at 21. During his first years of marriage he faced frequent unemployment and serious credit issues. Rob’s self-worth plummeted. Then a door of opportunity opened. Now Rob is a top salesperson in his firm, the recipient of awards and bonuses. In climbing the ladder of success, Rob admires (respects) the fact that he succeeded without a college degree. Rob expects esteem from everyone around him. If he doesn’t receive approval, he responds with disrespect. The self-respect that Rob learned to give himself is based on self-centeredness. Are self-respect and self-esteem the same? An individual with a healthy self-respect “likes” themselves -- even when encountering the inevitable failures in life. To esteem something is to “hold in high regard.” Self-respect and self-esteem are quite different. Self-esteem balances precariously upon a comparison with someone who’s always “a little better.” When we esteem someone or something, we face serious trouble if we do not measure up to those standards. Our esteem may ebb and flow, whereas a healthy self-respect (liking ourselves) is always grounded in what we are (and are not) -- not in what we can or cannot accomplish. I love to ice skate. I love to watch professional skaters. For years I took private lessons and trained on a personal skating rink. Yet I am not an exceptional skater. Realizing that I am not “Olympic material” doesn’t affect my self-respect. How can we affect our self-respect? It is human nature to focus on ourselves. From childhood, we have those basic desires -- to be loved, to receive approval, to GET things. Children quickly become unhappy when things are not focused on them -- what they didn’t get, who hasn’t noticed them, who has infringed on their rights, who didn’t give them respect. Self-respect is affected by how we react to someone complimenting us. The more times we give little regard to a compliment, the more secure our self-respect becomes. Suppose someone compliments our ability to play a musical instrument or to use a pair of scissors. Should the success or failure of either skill affect our self-respect? Naturally, we accept compliments graciously, with appreciation for their sincerity. Our self-respect is affected when we accept compliments selfishly, with application to our identity. How can we protect our self-respect? The first step is changing our focus from a selfish GET mentality to a selfless GIVE mentality (Philippians 2:3-4). There is nothing admirable about feeding our own egos. Admiration or devotion to ourselves and our accomplishments is a form of idol worship. An idol is anything placed between you and God (Ephesians 5:5). Even the apostle Paul did not judge his own motives or rely on accolades from others. “. . . Well, it matters very little what you or anyone else thinks. I don’t even trust my own judgment on this point. My conscience is clear, but that isn’t what matters. It is the Lord himself who will examine me and decide” (1 Corinthians 4:3-4).The following questions may arise: “Does that mean I shouldn’t treat myself well at all? Am I showing humility if I treat myself badly?” You are held in high regard by God (Ephesians 1:4-5). Yes, you should take care of your physical and emotional well-being, but in the context that you are respecting the body that God has given you. When you show self-respect, it should be within the context of the God who designed you and has great plans for you. The choices you make in how you live show respect for the final product you will present to Him (Galatians 6:4-5).

some tips about self respect:

1)Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.

2)There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.

3)If one is estranged from oneself, then one is estranged from others too. If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.
I hope you have been motivated.

Self Esteem is what we experience when we feel good about ourselves and when we feel good inside.
I think when you feel you like what you are doing, where you are going and feel you have your priorities right. Feeling good means being satisfied with what you have, with what you are doing and where you are going.

Don't make the common mistake of comparing your achievements to someone else or to what you believe you should have done up to this point. You will NEVER measure up and you will bring yourself down. LOW SELF ESTEEM.(its bad)

What you need to feel good inside is within your power. It is not the result but the route to achievement. You will have high self esteem when you have a sense of direction, satisfaction about your choices and actions and know that you are doing your best and doing something good.

- Do your best and you will respect yourself for it. If you don't you will know. You can cheat others but not yourself.

- Be honest and kind to others. Give yourself NO chance to be self critical.

Some ways to boost your self-esteem:

Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!:]

2) Do something you have been putting off. Like writing or calling a friend, doing some chores, tidying the garden, , making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through!


3) Do something you are good at. How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing… If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem!And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier.

4) Stop thinking about yourself!jkjk:] I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on yourself. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.

5) Get seriously relaxed.If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly yea? Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, physically-based relaxation technique such as yoga can be incredibly useful. When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!

6) Remember all the things you have achieved. This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here. Things like passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.7) Remember that you could be wrong!If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!SummaryOnce you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!,

A girl should have self respect.This means that you should respect yourself and other people around you.Firstly, you should point out your friend's strengths.Just like advisng them on how a girl can improve when it comes to her weaknesses. Instead, compliment her on her strengths. Let her know how amazing she is and how impressed you are by her talents and gifts. Highlighting her strengths (daily if necessary) is essential: She might be focusing on what’s wrong with her and not see all that's special about her.
But it’s important not to attach pressure or a prescription to your compliment like: (You’re so great at math, you should become an engineer. Here are the colleges you should apply to but they’re very tough to get into, so you should work hard.)Instead, plant a seed so she can grow by using her strengths, like: (You’re so great at math, do you enjoy it? If the answer is yes: If you want to spend more time flexing your math brain, let me know. Would you want to help me balance the family’s checkbook? It’s an important job and you’d be awesome at it if you’re interested.)Whether you’re a parent, coach, supervisor at work, teacher or mentor, give her tons of opportunities to play to her strengths so she can boost her confidence, skills and self-respect along the way.
Secondly, you should encourage your friend's passions.Like you have your dream , and the girls in your life have theirs (even if they don’t know it yet). Behind every poster child for self-respect is a long list of passions that are being pursued, fulfilled and never ignored. Cheer girls to go after their passions. Coach them about to explore their interests and balance their passions with their responsibilities. Support them however you can—whether it be a ride to lesson they never want to miss, packing them a snack to keep their energy up, or just asking them about their passions and how they make them feel. Share with them the limitless potential we all have. For inspiration, offer examples of your heroes and role models. Ask them who they admire and why. And accept when their passions change. Allow girls the flexibility to grow out passions and into new ones—always encourage them to try new things and that mistakes are lessons in disguise.
Thirdly, you should encourage your friend but don't give them too much confidence.Like every girl is creative , resourceful and whole. The question is: How can you draw out her power and gifts? No matter what challenge lies ahead, encourage her that she can do it. Then ask—not tell—her how she thinks she can achieve her goal, dream or task. In a supportive way ask her open-ended questions like: How would you go about getting into that college? or What are some ways you might raise the money to go to music camp?
As you take the time to ask powerful questions, her own intelligent plan will unfold. Be patient. This approach can take longer because she is new to exploring options and making action plans. If you hang back but let her know you are there for her, she will likely ask you for some advice and support—and then you can give her the benefit of your wisdom and experience. By telling girls they can do it, and then letting them figure out how, they start to see how smart they are, take more ownership over their plans, and think more deeply about the possible outcomes of their choices.
Fourthly, you should listen and respect her boundaries. When girls feel respected when people listen to them.When girls are sharing their feelings, dreams or disappointments, press your lips together, open your ears and lean in. They are giving you a gift. When girls share, it’s the chance to see inside their hearts and pick up clues about how you can support them in becoming who they are supposed to be. When you are truly listening to them (without butting in or offering advice or discounting their feelings because they scare you) they are seeing respect in action. Also, listening to their thoughts and ideas is part of coaching them about how to make self-respecting decisions. It reinforces that they and their feelings count. Girls say they need to be able to talk without fear or judgment. Otherwise, they start to shut out their supporters, stop asking questions and don’t ask for support. So it’s all about listening. Young people have things to teach us too! And when they set boundaries, listen harder than ever before. Because if a girl can’t set boundaries in the safety of her own home, how is she going to enforce her boundaries to protect herself and not be doormat out in the real world? Like if she says: Mom, can you not ask me tons of questions right when I get home from school? Or, It hurts my feelings when you criticize how I do things. Listen and then negotiate an alternative that works for both of you. She’ll feel respected, you’ll feel like you can still positively influence her...and respect will start to rule under your roof.
Lastly, you must respect yourself.Respecting ourselves is a life-long practice. Show the girls in your life how it works for you. Learn and live The 7 Respect Basics—from following your passions to listening to your gut.
Show her (even if you’re still working on it) how you take care of and appreciate your mind, body and soul. Show her how you value yourself based on more than what you have or how you look. Show her how you support other women and don’t put them down. Show her how you do things that you love and that enrich your life. Show her your integrity by telling and living your truth. Show her how when you are dealing with disrespect—unhealthy relationships, negative self-talk, too much stress, depression, addictions, etc.—how you’re not afraid to get help. Show her how you surround yourself with people who respect themselves and want you to be yourself. Show her that she doesn’t have to be perfect and how to learn from mistakes instead of letting them define her. Show her that you are forgiving of yourself and others. Show her how to treat people equally and not violate others' rights. Show her that even if we’re not always set up for success, that true respect starts on the inside.
If you work toward loving and respecting yourself and others in her presence, she will learn how to do it too. Mission accomplished.

When Abram traveled to the land of Canaan, he took everything he owned. Abram was very rich. He had lots of tents, lots of silver, lots of gold, and herds and herds of animals.

Abram's nephew traveled along with Abram. His name was Lot. Lot had lots of animals, too.
Between Abram's sheep and Lot's sheep, there was hardly enough grass and water to go around.
Before too long, Abram and Lot realized that there just wasn't enough for everyone to stay in the same place. Abram was older and had the right to choose first, but he did not want to argue over land. Abram allowed Lot to choose where he wanted to keep his sheep.
Lot chose the beautiful valley with the city to the East, while Abram ended up with rugged hills and not much water. So it was decided that Abram would stay in Canaan while Lot would move near the city of Sodom.
Lot chose to live in the rich fertile plains near Sodom where the men were very wicked.
Before too long a war broke out between the kings that lived near Lot. Lot and his family were taken prisoner and all of their possessions were stolen!

Abram heard the horrible news. Even though he now lived far away, he was still Lot's uncle! He organized his servants and set out to rescue Lot and his family. With God's help, Abram rescued his nephew, Lot's family and recovered their possessions.

Abram was doing the right thing by being selfless and in the end God blessed Abram when he qwas in times of need.
As for lot,he was greedy and got what he deserved.

The dictionary defines peace as: Freedom from war, strife, disturbance, disorder,disagreement, or quarrel(Webster New World Dictionary). This is not Christ's understanding of peace. Peace is not the absence of conflict, disagreement, or turmoil;rather it is the presence of Christ in the midst of every human experience, including conflict, disagreement and turmoil. The peace that Christ offers is not dependent on anyoutward circumstance, as any peace the world can give must be. This is the difference.Christ is not offering an escape from the challenges of life, but something far better .His presence to face up to all the challenges that life brings to us. How do we know? We know because of the context, the setting of this promise. Christ gave this gift on the evenof his violent execution. He gave this to fearful and distressed disciples. It was into thisturbulent setting that Christ proclaimed, my peace I give to you.

Christ wants us to have life, life in abundance. If we have his peace in our hearts, then we will be able to live in peace with one another. The question for us to think about is: Can we open our hearts and let the Light of Christ shine into all the dark corners and drive out our fears and anxieties from us? Do we long to draw closer to God in prayer and learn to trust him more for everything that happens in our lives? Dare we ask for a spirit of gratitude which reminds us that every good and gracious gift comes from God alone. Christ longs to give us more than we can ever ask or imagine , listen as he calls us each by name: My own peace I give to you.I do not give to you as the world gives...Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid. Peace I leave with you. It is my gift to you. It is yours to have and it is also for you to give away to the rest of the world .

You can't fight for peace - that would be war.

You can't fight against war - that would be war.

Therefore, do not BE against war, instead,
BE FOR PEACE
In fact, do not be against anything,
always be FOR something.
Where ever you concentrate your energy on,that part will grow.

Being against something, like war, just makes the conflict bigger.

Being for something, like peace, makes peace bigger.
If all the energy is concentrated on peace,there will be no energy left for war.
War will have become obsolete.

Being a pacifist does not mean being passive.

Being an Activist, does not mean destructive action.

To activate peace, one needs to take action to create:
peacefulness - happiness - health - wealth - purposemeaning - confidence - positive - tolerance
- - -As long as we have problems such as;poverty - homeless people - health and hospital problems - drugs - alcoholism - social unrest - crime - unemployment and many more..as long there can be no peace.
Peace starts with you,
please help to improve life around you.

It is incredibly easy to be drained by the stress of every day life. There are so many opportunities after all - financial concerns, employment issues, relationship strains, overloaded responsibilities, health burdens, pending critical decisions, etc. Fear, anxiety, discouragement, guilt, or alienation can cause us to lash out at the world or even turn inward with anger, blame or revenge - hardly a recipe for peace. None of us can escape the stresses of life. They are all around us and many we often create ourselves. Even Christ could not escape pressures from his environment. His enemies were hungry for the opportune moment to control his destiny. Yet Christ often displayed peace in his lifetime. Whenever the disciples were in a panic, he was at peace and in control. When Satan tempted Christ, Christ was again at peace.The phrase "the peace of Jesus Christ" contrains all the promises, hopes, and blessings of the gospel as revealed by Christ and as affirmed by the Holy Spirit, his promised presence with us. In all of the places in our lives where we are afraid, anxious, discouraged, guilt-ridden, or alienated, Jesus Christ speaks "peace" and opens the way to peace, not just for individuals, but for the whole of creation. (Conference sermon by President Steve Veazey) .

Once we recognize the peace,as Christ gives, what can we do in order to make it grow? We can become peacemakers by helping others recognize the Source of Life, God the Father, and open a path towards growth through His Son, Jesus the Christ. This is the essence and mission of the Christian Way of Life: To be a peacemaker. Only when a person, a family, or a community has the peace as Christ offers and works at bringing this peace into the life of others, only then they experience love, joy, and fulfillment. Otherwise, if human beings do not have this peace and do not try to become peacemakers from a Christian perspective, then their life becomes empty, boring, and without direction. Furthermore, those who try to deceive people into the worldly peace, capitalize on this very emptiying relationships so humanity will remain in chaos, and not challenge their empty promises and tyrannical means. And again such deceivers will try to oppress, persecute, and keep in the dark those who attain peace as Christ gives, so their deceptive oppression in the name of peace will not be exposed. But as the Gospel states: He light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.(St. John 1:5)

Those who seek the peace, as Christ offers spend their efforts looking inwardly in order to strengthen their relationship with God, which in turn would help them become more understanding, compassionate, and helpful people towards others. This is the meaning of the commandment that Christ gave: Love one another as I have loved you.In contrast, the peace as the world gives focuses outside of one's own person and attempts to create conflict and misery in others so their own misery and hypocrisy would not become apparent. The intent of such worldly groups is to keep humans from finding their true source of peace in God, so they can be more easily manipulated in the midst of confusion and lack of direction. So who would these hypocrites and deceivers who make false promises of peace try to oppress first? First and foremost they would try to oppress those who have peace as Christ offers! Why? Because those who attain and maintain peace as Christ offers are the ones who reveal to all humanity the fallacy and emptiness of the promises proclaimed by those worldly oppressors who bring darkness and ignorance in the name of peace. Those who have the peace as Christ gives are the lights that shine in the darkness and reveal the deception of those offering peace as the world gives. Consequently, the more peaceful a follower of Christ becomes, the more he or she is persecuted by the deceivers so their hypocrisy and deception is not revealed. For this reason, when Christ revealed his path for peace, he told his Disciples: Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.(St. John 14:27)

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The peace that Christ gives the human being is an intimate harmonious relationship with the Creator of the Universe, the compassionate Go the Father of all creatures and creation. If one were to live the Christian Way of Life, everything that he or she intends, thinks, and does will be in tune and harmony with the will of God, which in turn will be for the permanent betterment of all humanity for all ages. Take for instance that which the Prophets of the Old Testament, the Apostles, St. Gregory the Illuminator or St. Naratzee accomplished: Though thousands of years have passed, yet what they have done to raise the spiritual standard of humanity is still as fresh and effective today as it was centuries ago. Being part of such an elevation of the relationship between God and humanity is a life giving connection that brings peace to a person's or community's life because it elevates the human being from a mere mortal creature to a reflection of God the immortal Creator, leading Christ to liken them to sons of God.However, such is not the peace that the world offers. By the term world it is meant those who do not acknowledge their Creator and Source of life as God, and do not accept the revealer of this relationship as Christ the Savior. Instead, they see themselves and their organizations, as opposed to God, as the creators of law, order, and civilization in humanity. Consequently, in order to establish their supremacy as those who can bring peace to the world, such persons and groups continuously oppress others and bring chaos and conflict upon them. In that way, they, the false and hypocritical preachers of peace will establish themselves as gods as the only and the supreme source of law, order, and progress in society. In other words, the worldly peace is nothing more than a power struggle ,a struggle by a group of people to bring misery into the life of others so they outshine all humanity, and appear as though they are the champions of peace.All these hypocrites can do is offer deception, destruction, and hopelessness. So whereas the peace that Christ offers brings unity and harmony in the life of humanity and raises their standard of life, the peace that the world gives is merely a power struggle by human organizations who try to oppress and suppress others in order for them to appear as better than others. Put in another way, whereas the peace that Christ gives elevates and inspires the human being and society, the peace that the world offers oppresses and demoralizes them.

A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.

What is the price we pay for self-respect? Some people feel robbed of self-respect, while others have even killed to overcome feelings of inferiority. Psychologists insist that respecting others is impossible until we learn to respect ourselves. They believe that individuals, lacking in self-respect, are mistakenly too focused on helping others and not taking care of their own needs. One self-help site suggests that “you treat your self-respect like a pet. It is very easy to care for. Be sure to give it daily attention and it will grow big and strong.” Now, one might ask, “What’s wrong with respecting myself? If I can’t express honor and admiration for myself, how can I show proper respect for other individuals?” Rob’s childhood consisted of multiple divorces and eventually leaving home at 15. He finally earned a high school diploma at 21. During his first years of marriage he faced frequent unemployment and serious credit issues. Rob’s self-worth plummeted. Then a door of opportunity opened. Now Rob is a top salesperson in his firm, the recipient of awards and bonuses. In climbing the ladder of success, Rob admires (respects) the fact that he succeeded without a college degree. Rob expects esteem from everyone around him. If he doesn’t receive approval, he responds with disrespect. The self-respect that Rob learned to give himself is based on self-centeredness. Are self-respect and self-esteem the same? An individual with a healthy self-respect “likes” themselves -- even when encountering the inevitable failures in life. To esteem something is to “hold in high regard.” Self-respect and self-esteem are quite different. Self-esteem balances precariously upon a comparison with someone who’s always “a little better.” When we esteem someone or something, we face serious trouble if we do not measure up to those standards. Our esteem may ebb and flow, whereas a healthy self-respect (liking ourselves) is always grounded in what we are (and are not) -- not in what we can or cannot accomplish. I love to ice skate. I love to watch professional skaters. For years I took private lessons and trained on a personal skating rink. Yet I am not an exceptional skater. Realizing that I am not “Olympic material” doesn’t affect my self-respect. How can we affect our self-respect? It is human nature to focus on ourselves. From childhood, we have those basic desires -- to be loved, to receive approval, to GET things. Children quickly become unhappy when things are not focused on them -- what they didn’t get, who hasn’t noticed them, who has infringed on their rights, who didn’t give them respect. Self-respect is affected by how we react to someone complimenting us. The more times we give little regard to a compliment, the more secure our self-respect becomes. Suppose someone compliments our ability to play a musical instrument or to use a pair of scissors. Should the success or failure of either skill affect our self-respect? Naturally, we accept compliments graciously, with appreciation for their sincerity. Our self-respect is affected when we accept compliments selfishly, with application to our identity. How can we protect our self-respect? The first step is changing our focus from a selfish GET mentality to a selfless GIVE mentality (Philippians 2:3-4). There is nothing admirable about feeding our own egos. Admiration or devotion to ourselves and our accomplishments is a form of idol worship. An idol is anything placed between you and God (Ephesians 5:5). Even the apostle Paul did not judge his own motives or rely on accolades from others. “. . . Well, it matters very little what you or anyone else thinks. I don’t even trust my own judgment on this point. My conscience is clear, but that isn’t what matters. It is the Lord himself who will examine me and decide” (1 Corinthians 4:3-4).The following questions may arise: “Does that mean I shouldn’t treat myself well at all? Am I showing humility if I treat myself badly?” You are held in high regard by God (Ephesians 1:4-5). Yes, you should take care of your physical and emotional well-being, but in the context that you are respecting the body that God has given you. When you show self-respect, it should be within the context of the God who designed you and has great plans for you. The choices you make in how you live show respect for the final product you will present to Him (Galatians 6:4-5).

some tips about self respect:

1)Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.

2)There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.

3)If one is estranged from oneself, then one is estranged from others too. If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.
I hope you have been motivated.

Self Esteem is what we experience when we feel good about ourselves and when we feel good inside.
I think when you feel you like what you are doing, where you are going and feel you have your priorities right. Feeling good means being satisfied with what you have, with what you are doing and where you are going.

Don't make the common mistake of comparing your achievements to someone else or to what you believe you should have done up to this point. You will NEVER measure up and you will bring yourself down. LOW SELF ESTEEM.(its bad)

What you need to feel good inside is within your power. It is not the result but the route to achievement. You will have high self esteem when you have a sense of direction, satisfaction about your choices and actions and know that you are doing your best and doing something good.

- Do your best and you will respect yourself for it. If you don't you will know. You can cheat others but not yourself.

- Be honest and kind to others. Give yourself NO chance to be self critical.

Some ways to boost your self-esteem:

Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!:]

2) Do something you have been putting off. Like writing or calling a friend, doing some chores, tidying the garden, , making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through!


3) Do something you are good at. How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing… If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem!And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier.

4) Stop thinking about yourself!jkjk:] I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on yourself. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.

5) Get seriously relaxed.If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly yea? Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, physically-based relaxation technique such as yoga can be incredibly useful. When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!

6) Remember all the things you have achieved. This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here. Things like passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.7) Remember that you could be wrong!If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!SummaryOnce you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!,

A girl should have self respect.This means that you should respect yourself and other people around you.Firstly, you should point out your friend's strengths.Just like advisng them on how a girl can improve when it comes to her weaknesses. Instead, compliment her on her strengths. Let her know how amazing she is and how impressed you are by her talents and gifts. Highlighting her strengths (daily if necessary) is essential: She might be focusing on what’s wrong with her and not see all that's special about her.
But it’s important not to attach pressure or a prescription to your compliment like: (You’re so great at math, you should become an engineer. Here are the colleges you should apply to but they’re very tough to get into, so you should work hard.)Instead, plant a seed so she can grow by using her strengths, like: (You’re so great at math, do you enjoy it? If the answer is yes: If you want to spend more time flexing your math brain, let me know. Would you want to help me balance the family’s checkbook? It’s an important job and you’d be awesome at it if you’re interested.)Whether you’re a parent, coach, supervisor at work, teacher or mentor, give her tons of opportunities to play to her strengths so she can boost her confidence, skills and self-respect along the way.
Secondly, you should encourage your friend's passions.Like you have your dream , and the girls in your life have theirs (even if they don’t know it yet). Behind every poster child for self-respect is a long list of passions that are being pursued, fulfilled and never ignored. Cheer girls to go after their passions. Coach them about to explore their interests and balance their passions with their responsibilities. Support them however you can—whether it be a ride to lesson they never want to miss, packing them a snack to keep their energy up, or just asking them about their passions and how they make them feel. Share with them the limitless potential we all have. For inspiration, offer examples of your heroes and role models. Ask them who they admire and why. And accept when their passions change. Allow girls the flexibility to grow out passions and into new ones—always encourage them to try new things and that mistakes are lessons in disguise.
Thirdly, you should encourage your friend but don't give them too much confidence.Like every girl is creative , resourceful and whole. The question is: How can you draw out her power and gifts? No matter what challenge lies ahead, encourage her that she can do it. Then ask—not tell—her how she thinks she can achieve her goal, dream or task. In a supportive way ask her open-ended questions like: How would you go about getting into that college? or What are some ways you might raise the money to go to music camp?
As you take the time to ask powerful questions, her own intelligent plan will unfold. Be patient. This approach can take longer because she is new to exploring options and making action plans. If you hang back but let her know you are there for her, she will likely ask you for some advice and support—and then you can give her the benefit of your wisdom and experience. By telling girls they can do it, and then letting them figure out how, they start to see how smart they are, take more ownership over their plans, and think more deeply about the possible outcomes of their choices.
Fourthly, you should listen and respect her boundaries. When girls feel respected when people listen to them.When girls are sharing their feelings, dreams or disappointments, press your lips together, open your ears and lean in. They are giving you a gift. When girls share, it’s the chance to see inside their hearts and pick up clues about how you can support them in becoming who they are supposed to be. When you are truly listening to them (without butting in or offering advice or discounting their feelings because they scare you) they are seeing respect in action. Also, listening to their thoughts and ideas is part of coaching them about how to make self-respecting decisions. It reinforces that they and their feelings count. Girls say they need to be able to talk without fear or judgment. Otherwise, they start to shut out their supporters, stop asking questions and don’t ask for support. So it’s all about listening. Young people have things to teach us too! And when they set boundaries, listen harder than ever before. Because if a girl can’t set boundaries in the safety of her own home, how is she going to enforce her boundaries to protect herself and not be doormat out in the real world? Like if she says: Mom, can you not ask me tons of questions right when I get home from school? Or, It hurts my feelings when you criticize how I do things. Listen and then negotiate an alternative that works for both of you. She’ll feel respected, you’ll feel like you can still positively influence her...and respect will start to rule under your roof.
Lastly, you must respect yourself.Respecting ourselves is a life-long practice. Show the girls in your life how it works for you. Learn and live The 7 Respect Basics—from following your passions to listening to your gut.
Show her (even if you’re still working on it) how you take care of and appreciate your mind, body and soul. Show her how you value yourself based on more than what you have or how you look. Show her how you support other women and don’t put them down. Show her how you do things that you love and that enrich your life. Show her your integrity by telling and living your truth. Show her how when you are dealing with disrespect—unhealthy relationships, negative self-talk, too much stress, depression, addictions, etc.—how you’re not afraid to get help. Show her how you surround yourself with people who respect themselves and want you to be yourself. Show her that she doesn’t have to be perfect and how to learn from mistakes instead of letting them define her. Show her that you are forgiving of yourself and others. Show her how to treat people equally and not violate others' rights. Show her that even if we’re not always set up for success, that true respect starts on the inside.
If you work toward loving and respecting yourself and others in her presence, she will learn how to do it too. Mission accomplished.

When Abram traveled to the land of Canaan, he took everything he owned. Abram was very rich. He had lots of tents, lots of silver, lots of gold, and herds and herds of animals.

Abram's nephew traveled along with Abram. His name was Lot. Lot had lots of animals, too.
Between Abram's sheep and Lot's sheep, there was hardly enough grass and water to go around.
Before too long, Abram and Lot realized that there just wasn't enough for everyone to stay in the same place. Abram was older and had the right to choose first, but he did not want to argue over land. Abram allowed Lot to choose where he wanted to keep his sheep.
Lot chose the beautiful valley with the city to the East, while Abram ended up with rugged hills and not much water. So it was decided that Abram would stay in Canaan while Lot would move near the city of Sodom.
Lot chose to live in the rich fertile plains near Sodom where the men were very wicked.
Before too long a war broke out between the kings that lived near Lot. Lot and his family were taken prisoner and all of their possessions were stolen!

Abram heard the horrible news. Even though he now lived far away, he was still Lot's uncle! He organized his servants and set out to rescue Lot and his family. With God's help, Abram rescued his nephew, Lot's family and recovered their possessions.

Abram was doing the right thing by being selfless and in the end God blessed Abram when he qwas in times of need.
As for lot,he was greedy and got what he deserved.

The dictionary defines peace as: Freedom from war, strife, disturbance, disorder,disagreement, or quarrel(Webster New World Dictionary). This is not Christ's understanding of peace. Peace is not the absence of conflict, disagreement, or turmoil;rather it is the presence of Christ in the midst of every human experience, including conflict, disagreement and turmoil. The peace that Christ offers is not dependent on anyoutward circumstance, as any peace the world can give must be. This is the difference.Christ is not offering an escape from the challenges of life, but something far better .His presence to face up to all the challenges that life brings to us. How do we know? We know because of the context, the setting of this promise. Christ gave this gift on the evenof his violent execution. He gave this to fearful and distressed disciples. It was into thisturbulent setting that Christ proclaimed, my peace I give to you.

Christ wants us to have life, life in abundance. If we have his peace in our hearts, then we will be able to live in peace with one another. The question for us to think about is: Can we open our hearts and let the Light of Christ shine into all the dark corners and drive out our fears and anxieties from us? Do we long to draw closer to God in prayer and learn to trust him more for everything that happens in our lives? Dare we ask for a spirit of gratitude which reminds us that every good and gracious gift comes from God alone. Christ longs to give us more than we can ever ask or imagine , listen as he calls us each by name: My own peace I give to you.I do not give to you as the world gives...Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid. Peace I leave with you. It is my gift to you. It is yours to have and it is also for you to give away to the rest of the world .

You can't fight for peace - that would be war.

You can't fight against war - that would be war.

Therefore, do not BE against war, instead,
BE FOR PEACE
In fact, do not be against anything,
always be FOR something.
Where ever you concentrate your energy on,that part will grow.

Being against something, like war, just makes the conflict bigger.

Being for something, like peace, makes peace bigger.
If all the energy is concentrated on peace,there will be no energy left for war.
War will have become obsolete.

Being a pacifist does not mean being passive.

Being an Activist, does not mean destructive action.

To activate peace, one needs to take action to create:
peacefulness - happiness - health - wealth - purposemeaning - confidence - positive - tolerance
- - -As long as we have problems such as;poverty - homeless people - health and hospital problems - drugs - alcoholism - social unrest - crime - unemployment and many more..as long there can be no peace.
Peace starts with you,
please help to improve life around you.

It is incredibly easy to be drained by the stress of every day life. There are so many opportunities after all - financial concerns, employment issues, relationship strains, overloaded responsibilities, health burdens, pending critical decisions, etc. Fear, anxiety, discouragement, guilt, or alienation can cause us to lash out at the world or even turn inward with anger, blame or revenge - hardly a recipe for peace. None of us can escape the stresses of life. They are all around us and many we often create ourselves. Even Christ could not escape pressures from his environment. His enemies were hungry for the opportune moment to control his destiny. Yet Christ often displayed peace in his lifetime. Whenever the disciples were in a panic, he was at peace and in control. When Satan tempted Christ, Christ was again at peace.The phrase "the peace of Jesus Christ" contrains all the promises, hopes, and blessings of the gospel as revealed by Christ and as affirmed by the Holy Spirit, his promised presence with us. In all of the places in our lives where we are afraid, anxious, discouraged, guilt-ridden, or alienated, Jesus Christ speaks "peace" and opens the way to peace, not just for individuals, but for the whole of creation. (Conference sermon by President Steve Veazey) .

Once we recognize the peace,as Christ gives, what can we do in order to make it grow? We can become peacemakers by helping others recognize the Source of Life, God the Father, and open a path towards growth through His Son, Jesus the Christ. This is the essence and mission of the Christian Way of Life: To be a peacemaker. Only when a person, a family, or a community has the peace as Christ offers and works at bringing this peace into the life of others, only then they experience love, joy, and fulfillment. Otherwise, if human beings do not have this peace and do not try to become peacemakers from a Christian perspective, then their life becomes empty, boring, and without direction. Furthermore, those who try to deceive people into the worldly peace, capitalize on this very emptiying relationships so humanity will remain in chaos, and not challenge their empty promises and tyrannical means. And again such deceivers will try to oppress, persecute, and keep in the dark those who attain peace as Christ gives, so their deceptive oppression in the name of peace will not be exposed. But as the Gospel states: He light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.(St. John 1:5)

Those who seek the peace, as Christ offers spend their efforts looking inwardly in order to strengthen their relationship with God, which in turn would help them become more understanding, compassionate, and helpful people towards others. This is the meaning of the commandment that Christ gave: Love one another as I have loved you.In contrast, the peace as the world gives focuses outside of one's own person and attempts to create conflict and misery in others so their own misery and hypocrisy would not become apparent. The intent of such worldly groups is to keep humans from finding their true source of peace in God, so they can be more easily manipulated in the midst of confusion and lack of direction. So who would these hypocrites and deceivers who make false promises of peace try to oppress first? First and foremost they would try to oppress those who have peace as Christ offers! Why? Because those who attain and maintain peace as Christ offers are the ones who reveal to all humanity the fallacy and emptiness of the promises proclaimed by those worldly oppressors who bring darkness and ignorance in the name of peace. Those who have the peace as Christ gives are the lights that shine in the darkness and reveal the deception of those offering peace as the world gives. Consequently, the more peaceful a follower of Christ becomes, the more he or she is persecuted by the deceivers so their hypocrisy and deception is not revealed. For this reason, when Christ revealed his path for peace, he told his Disciples: Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.(St. John 14:27)

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The peace that Christ gives the human being is an intimate harmonious relationship with the Creator of the Universe, the compassionate Go the Father of all creatures and creation. If one were to live the Christian Way of Life, everything that he or she intends, thinks, and does will be in tune and harmony with the will of God, which in turn will be for the permanent betterment of all humanity for all ages. Take for instance that which the Prophets of the Old Testament, the Apostles, St. Gregory the Illuminator or St. Naratzee accomplished: Though thousands of years have passed, yet what they have done to raise the spiritual standard of humanity is still as fresh and effective today as it was centuries ago. Being part of such an elevation of the relationship between God and humanity is a life giving connection that brings peace to a person's or community's life because it elevates the human being from a mere mortal creature to a reflection of God the immortal Creator, leading Christ to liken them to sons of God.However, such is not the peace that the world offers. By the term world it is meant those who do not acknowledge their Creator and Source of life as God, and do not accept the revealer of this relationship as Christ the Savior. Instead, they see themselves and their organizations, as opposed to God, as the creators of law, order, and civilization in humanity. Consequently, in order to establish their supremacy as those who can bring peace to the world, such persons and groups continuously oppress others and bring chaos and conflict upon them. In that way, they, the false and hypocritical preachers of peace will establish themselves as gods as the only and the supreme source of law, order, and progress in society. In other words, the worldly peace is nothing more than a power struggle ,a struggle by a group of people to bring misery into the life of others so they outshine all humanity, and appear as though they are the champions of peace.All these hypocrites can do is offer deception, destruction, and hopelessness. So whereas the peace that Christ offers brings unity and harmony in the life of humanity and raises their standard of life, the peace that the world gives is merely a power struggle by human organizations who try to oppress and suppress others in order for them to appear as better than others. Put in another way, whereas the peace that Christ gives elevates and inspires the human being and society, the peace that the world offers oppresses and demoralizes them.