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A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.

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A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.

Girls, go to this website to create a counter for this blog now.

A girl named Natalie Tan , has just been transferred into a Secondary School . She has been with a good company of friends since primary school , and are very close to them . After reaching Secondary School , she wanted to make new friends . She wanted to be cool , and hanged out with a group of bad company . She did not realize it as she thought that if she were cool , nothing could stop her . Her popularity grew , and one day , her friends asked her sensitive questions .
Jessa : Hey Natalie , have you had sex before ?
Natalie : No , why are you asking such a question ?
Candy : Everyone here has had sex before ! Its sooooo cool !
Natalie : I don't want to lose my virginity ! I want to keep it till I grow up ! Besides , underage sex is illegal right ?
All of her friends : Hahaha ! You silly girl ! Maybe we'll start calling you , virginity girl !
All of her friends walked out leaving her alone .

The next day when Natalie went to school , she looked for her friends . They shouted " Virginity Girl " at her , and ignored her . Natalie was frustrated , and spent the whole day in school alone . After she reached home , she thought about what her friends said the day before . She was over stressed , and everyday , she went to school , and spent the day alone . One day , she felt overly frustrated , and she thought to herself " if I did sex with some of the boys in school , my friends won't leave me alone again ! " The next day , she went to school and asked her boyfriend for sex , as his parents went overseas , and no one will be at his house . His boyfriend agreed , and gave her a condom .

Natalie went home , happy that she was going to get her friends back .
Natalie : Hey Joe !
Natalie , upon seeing his boyfriend , hugged and kissed him .
Joe : Oh hey darling , come on in .
Natalie enters Joe room , and got anxious .
Natalie passed the condom to Joe , and Joe hit it away from her hand . Natalie started panicking and Joe pushed her onto the bed . When he was about to tear off her clothes ... " AHHHHH ! " Natalie woked up , filled with sweat . She thought to herself " It was just a dream .. " She made some matters cleared , and found out that what she is going to do is wrong . She had a quick shower , and rushed to her boyfriend's house .

She told her boyfriend , that she did not want to have sex anymore . Her boyfriend broke up with her , as she did not wanted to have sex with him . Natalie did not mind , as she knew that she was doing the correct thing .

Moral of the story :
You don't have to act like a different person to blend in with the rest , being yourself is the best .

There was a girl named Mary.She was a short girl.All her friends in her class are tall but she is the shortest girl in class.She then decided to wear high heels that will make her seem taller.When she wear high heels her feet will be very painful.She just continue walking and it make her feet even more painful.
One day, while shopping with her friends, when walking down the stairs, her heel broke.
She fell down the stairs and her friends were shocked.''Call the ambulance!Now!'' one of her friend said.
Mary was sent to hospital in the emergency room. The doctor told her parents that she was severely injured and could not play sports for half a year. She was unconscious for 1 week.
When she woke up,her parents told her that she could not play sports for six month because she fractured her leg.She cried the whole day.She regretted wearing high heels because not only it cause her a lot of problem, she also can't play basketball in the school team.
When she went back to school, she told herself that she will not ever wear high heels ever again. She learnt that she do not need to be tall to gain confidence.
The moral of the story is you do not need to be tall to gain confidence and being yourself is the BEST!

Your Self Esteem and Happiness:

Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
Think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best-you deserve nothing less.

Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need.
Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot.
When you help someone ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over:]

Start with the little things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.

Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.

Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose. To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.
I enjoy singing and do so quite frequently. As those within earshot will attest, I'm not very good but I love to sing anyway. During summer parties I frequently sing solo and play the part of the "moving ball," trying to stay just ahead of the music to provide the words for those who don't know the song. I am not saddened by my lack of talent. I accept the way I sing. Because of this acceptance, I am able to sing without being evaluative of myself or concerned with what others think.
The word acceptance suggests to some readers that our culture does indeed deal with this idea of self-respect; after all, don't we have the concept that it is important to accept our limitations? Aren't many of us encouraged "to change the things we can change, accept the things we cannot change and know the difference between the two?" I believe I could learn to sing better, so my acceptance is not based on my limitations. Nor is it based on resignation, since I am not resigned to the belief that I cannot sing well and am not committed to any particular belief about my voice in the future.
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem. Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
Consider an interesting test of self-respect. If someone compliments us, what is our reaction? If we are very pleased, it would suggest a certain amount of uncertainty about our skill. Imagine that somebody whose opinion we respect told us that we were great at spelling three-letter words, or that our pronunciation of vowels was wonderful. Chances are we would not be moved. We know we can do it in the first case, and we don't care in the second. Because we were not evaluating ourselves, the compliment was unimportant. The more instances in which we don't "take the compliment," the less vulnerable we become to evaluation and insult.
My recent research, with Judith White and Johnny Walsch at Harvard University, points to the advantages of self-respect. Compared to those with high self-esteem who are still caught in an evaluative framework, those with self-respect are less prone to blame, guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
Many people worry whether there is life after death. Just think about it: If we gave up self-evaluation, we could have more life before death.

Adapted by Ph.D.
Ellen J. Langer, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, is author of The Power of Mindful Learning (Perseus, 1997) and Mindfulness (Perseus, 1989).

In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent/incompetent") and emotions (for example, triumph/despair, pride/shame). Behavior may reflect self-esteem (for example, assertiveness/shyness, confidence/caution).

Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as an enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) occur.
Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer, and feel proud of that in particular") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a good person, and feel proud of myself in general").

Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include:
self-worth,[1] self-regard,[2] self-respect,[3][4] self-love (which can express overtones of self-promotion),[5] self-integrity. Self-esteem is distinct from self-confidence and self-efficacy, which involve beliefs about ability and future performance.